What is the hardest of raising a daughter without a male support?.Let me rephrase the situation for you what will be the hardest part of raising a daughter without male support ,male support not merely husband lt could be your father,brother,son or any of the male member of your family ,in a place like Afghanistan or some parts of Pakistan?
Well to be honest for me the hardest part will be to preserve her identity ,let her be what she is .The question is not only for a family to give her the respect make her feel heard or acknowledged .It is about, will our society will accept her with all her dignity?
Dressing up as a boy and earning bread and butter for family,Bacha Posh that is what they are known as.That is still a hard reality for us to accept but where existence for women without man is inevitable,it seems to be a quite normal practice.
For whole lot of reason and circumstances a family choses their daughter to be raise as a son ,be it for social stigma,or for keeping orthodox tradition alive because there is a birth to a girl rather than boy in their family or I have even come across that if there is no son than raising a daughter as a son will give hope to have a son in next pregnancy,or be it for escorting female members of family out or working out house errands.
Imagine how it feels to be in someone else shoes ,in someone’s else body.Trapping and caging femininity of yours,chopping down hairs and walking like man,deepening your voice so only you can be heard,understood,acknowledged.How it feel to kill apart of yourself without killing yourself?
It feel good to be free,doing all the things you have never imagine of doing as a girl.But how long?.Once puberty hit ,physical and metabolic changes in body occur it pushes in the state of delima where no longer embracing fake masculinity or natural femininity heals the wound of puberty revealing biological gender.
Despite all,above all there is a heart beating ,waiting anticipatedly to be loved,heard and appreciated.Souls awaiting for miracles and stories that needs to be heard!